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This blog post will cover ways to be a soft girl but the Muslim version centred around Islam!
1. Organise your sanctuary
This is essential! By your sanctuary, I mean the space where you study, pray, sleep, dress and unwind etc. It is so important to ensure your space is clean, decluttered, and spacious for you to carry out your worship. By keeping your space organised, you are more likely to enjoy living and relaxing in your space and feel more motivated to carry out your acts of worship. Make your space, you. Make your space, your aesthetic. Get the books out you love and decorate your shelf with them, organise a cute and warming prayer corner where you carry out your worship, get some cute trays out and put your perfumes and self-care products on, light up some candles to set the mood, or even just have nice cushions or a fresh duvet set to make your space look cosy. This will help you fall in love with alone time helping you unwind. Remember your space is also a safe environment for you and you want it to be warming for you when you come home.
2. Skincare & Body care (Look after yourself in your own home)
Okay, let me fix up this assumption really quickly. Just because as Muslim women, we are covered in public and avoid Tabarruj (displaying beauty in public, specifically non-Mehram), does not mean we neglect self-care in our own space, privately away from non-Mehram. When you’re in your space at home, look after yourself. Remember, you aren’t doing it for others, you are doing it for yourself, to make yourself feel beautiful and your future husband will want a wife who looks after herself through basic hygiene!
“[Remember] when He overwhelmed you with drowsiness [giving] security from Him and sent down upon you from the sky, rain by which to purify you and remove from you the evil [suggestions] of Satan and to make steadfast your hearts and plant firmly thereby your feet” [Quran, 8:11]
Skincare is so important, even if you have crystal clear skin and think you don’t need to care for your skin, you’re wrong. Skincare is basic hygiene, from your body to your face. You do it to unclog the pores and remove excess dirt and oil built up in your skin. With your body care, you want to make sure foremost you are clean, but also to smell nice and beautiful in your own home. Use your favourite body wash, body exfoliant (my favourite because I can’t stand dead skin cells), body lotion and to top it off a body mist to really enhance and lock in the scent. Again, nobody is seeing this (unless you are married) but remember you are doing it for yourself for the sake of Allah as we are always needing to be in a state of purity and cleanliness.
The Holy Prophet (S) said: “Try to be clean as much as you are able to. Verily, Allah has based the foundation of Islam on cleanliness; hence, never can a person enter Paradise but the clean ones” [Kanz-ul-‘Ummal, Tradition 26002]
3. Hair care
Okay, care for your hair even if you wear the hijab! Girls, when I tell you if you are out wearing your hijab well and covered the whole day, your hair will be a mess when you get home and often if we do not look after the hair under our hijab we could fall into having a receding hairline or a build-up of dirt and oil.
The thing I would highly recommend when it comes to avoiding these issues is to wear your hair under your hijab in a plait, this stops your hair from pulling back and avoids hair breakage. Also, part your hair with a middle parting to again, avoid hair breakage and a receding hairline.
Ways you can look after the condition of your hair:
- Oil your hair, I highly recommend argon oil, olive oil (Sunnah) & Amla oil
- Make sure the oil is focused on your scalp and make your way down to the ends. The oil keeps your hair soft and in good health as it stays hydrated.
- Scalp scrub (opens up the scalp pores and allows other hair products to seep into the scalp better, rather than sitting on the oil and dirt)
- Use a clarifying shampoo (removes dirt and excess oil)
- Conditioner (especially to avoid frizz)
If you’re feeling fancy, switch your conditioner to a hair masque.
Post wash: (this is all optional)
(Please air dry don’t blow dry, heat is not good for wet hair, prone to more breakage)
- Use a leave-in conditioner and spray to the ends of damp hair (locks in the freshness and gives more of an enhanced scent)
- Once hair is 3/4 dry, add oil to the ends of the hair to lock in hydration
For the non-hair wash days:
- Apply scalp serum every night
- Oil ends of hair every night
Other things that help maintain hair health: regular trims every 3/4 months to cut the dead ends of hair and stimulate hair growth.
Believe me, the reason why Allah asks us to cover our hair is because our hair contains so much beauty, how amazing is our Rabb SubhanAllah to give us sisters a beautiful blessing that we should always remember to take care of even if nobody sees it!
4. Night-time routine
Definitely my favourite part of the entire day. It is the perfect time for you to unwind, feel pretty in the comfort of your own home, do your self-care and get prepared for a good night’s sleep filled with energy before waking up for Fajr.
It is a chance for you to get into fresh and soft pyjamas, do your hair care, evening skin care, have a warm shower (helps you sleep better and in more comfort), moisturise and have some alone time before sleeping.
Avoid looking at your screen right before you sleep and to ensure you have an easy sleep, listen to some Qur’an, close your eyes and listen attentively whilst your mind relaxes.
To ensure you wake up well for Tahajjud (optional but is truly beautiful to pray) and Fajr (compulsory), read your “before going to sleep” Adkhaar, seek Allah’s forgiveness, talk to Allah, make sincere Du’a to Allah, cleanse your heart from any grudges or anything that is disturbing the peace of your heart and finally set your alarm for Fajr (highly advice setting an alarm 30 minutes before Fajr to help pray on time and also if you manage to wake up before Fajr, you can utilise the last third of the night in worship such as praying Tahajjud, making Du’a in sujood and humbling yourself before Allah).
I pray In Sha Allah this blog post helps you to be inspired to build your own routine at home.
With love and Du’as,
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